There are parts of your story you may choose to never share. There are other parts you may never share online. Maybe there are parts you plan to share in a book somewhere down the line. If you’re like me, however, you will share most of your story face to face once we know each other. There are reasons for that.
First, we need to understand the roads each of us has traveled in order to determine which parts of our story will be useful to each other. I could dump my whole saga as a series of posts on this blog and it would reek of one great big attention grab. That’s not useful for anyone. I’m in the early days of understanding the value my story holds for you and others. I’m also in the early days of being comfortable sharing most of it with people I know and trust.
Second, there are skeletons in all our closets and we need to respect the privacy of others who were touched by and are characters in the tale. I’ll never name names. The behavior I engaged in and the mistakes I made are my own. As the events move further into my past I am learning how to share the history without the gory details. The details don’t matter, the story is an opportunity to be there for others.
Recently, during BlogWorld I began to share some of the difficult parts of my past with different people. This grew from hearing their stories and then I was able to give back parts of my story in exchanges that occurred in a tiny closed communities of no more than three or four people. In every case I was thanked for sharing and thanked the others for sharing as well.
During a story sharing lunch with several friends, we determined that, social media and community are a way to know we are not alone in the world. Our problems are not unique. Others have dealt with or are dealing with the same situations.
How much of your story do you share? Who and in what medium do you share it? Please share your thoughts in the comments.